diff --git a/jarvis/cogs/remindme.py b/jarvis/cogs/remindme.py
index 9030a90..4d93538 100644
--- a/jarvis/cogs/remindme.py
+++ b/jarvis/cogs/remindme.py
@@ -50,8 +50,10 @@ class RemindmeCog(Extension):
     async def _remindme(
         self,
         ctx: InteractionContext,
-        private: bool = False,
+        private: bool = None,
     ) -> None:
+        if private is None:
+            private = ctx.guild.member_count >= 5000
         reminders = len([x async for x in Reminder.find(q(user=ctx.author.id, active=True))])
         if reminders >= 5:
             await ctx.send(